Again with the paperwork!

Bonus points to you if you thought that scene in Seinfeld, where George is wearing sweatpants for the 3rd day in a row and come over to Jerry’s apartment and Jerry says, “Again with the sweatpants!”  Also, I have no idea why all the font of my quoted sections is so big. It looks like I’m internet yelling, which is kind of funny in a way. I could see myself yelling this. But I digress. 

Full Disclosure:

This being our second adoption, we’re remarkably calm. The end of Lev’s adoption was totally rediculous. Maybe one day I’ll regale you with the stories of Lawyers, paralegals who mysteriously spend every morning between 10:30 and 1 pm  “at lunch” and absentee birthfathers who say strange things and then disappear forever, but just know it was crazy and not in the good way. When our social worker for violets adoption asked who we were working with and we told her , she said,

“Oh. That explains it all then.” The lawyers reputation preceeded him. Enough said.

But this time around, we’ve been home from our first trip 3 months, and I’ve called the agency twice and emailed them once. I emailed them yesterday or the day before about updating our homestudy, which we don’t have to do. But in three months, I’ve haven’t really harrassed them about much. Seeing how well Violet was cared for, and how much people loved her and she loved them was comforting to me. As I sat crying on the steps of the orphanage that last morning, I knew she would be ok.

So that being said, there are occasional hours where I sort of wig out. Today was one of them, and I wrote an email I never sent that said this:

So I was thinking about your last comment, “which should give us plenty of time to finish this without doing an update” and that leads me to this short story/question. And for the record, I know that this is adoption, the wait times are unpredictable, blah blah blah. I know that. So in someways if you consider this a mild complaint, I wouldn’t blame you. I deal with this all the time when people ask me about time lines at the height of wedding season and good natured complaining from eager brides and grooms is part of the territory. So here it goes: 
[The Facilitator that shall not be named] asked us when we wanted to come back and we said December because Alex had a product roll out in november, and my last bride is getting married on December 14th and she wouldn’t like it if I wasn’t here, because she hired me for me- we’re practically best friends now. So we told her late December around Christmas time. So she told us that she would send the paperwork and article 5 to [Agency Director who shall not be named] at the end of September, and now it’s December. We’re mostly taking this well, because honestly, after the ridiculousness of Lev’s adoption this is a walk in the park, and we know Violet is well cared for, but December is honestly a little bit of a sore spot, because we all had that discussion in the hotel that morning and because Violet has a bunch of  CHristmas presents hanging out in her room, and Lev talks about her non stop- he even wrote a song about her, and he sings it every night.    
Anyways, my question is this: 
Is “plenty of time” mostly for real, like you know the paperwork is going to come soon and you just can’t tell me, or is it a real threat that we’ll have to update? I hate updating adoption paperwork. It’s the worst. 
Follow up question: can’t I just print the article 5 from the hague convention myself and email to you and to whoever in Poland? 
Thanks for your help- we’re really excited to get back get our girl!
And then, after I wrote it all down, I thought to myself:
“Girl, seriously. Don’t send this email. You sound like a nut job.”
But I realized I felt better. And I do. I’m mostly sane and calm again.  I did not send the email. I promise I didn’t. Becuase I already know the answer. It goes something like this:
Thanks for your questions. You’re correct in saying that it’s all unpredictable. Just hang in there, and it will come. We’ll give you a call the moment we get it. I promise.
And while I appreciate your initiative, it wouldn’t be a good idea to print sections of the Hague agreement and send it Poland. 
[Agency person that shall not be named]
And really, what do I expect them to tell me anyways? It’s better to get all the cra cra out and hit delete then to hit send and waste people’s time.
And that, people, is a small glimpse into the no man’s land of  that vague wasteland of “In Between Trips”.  There’s not much more to say about it other than the fact that it will end soon. Hopefully sooner rather than later.
We’re very excited to go back and get Violet.
Thanks for reading!

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